In a large Ziplock bag or in a bowl, whisk together all marinade ingredients (from tequila to pepper). Add the wings and toss well to coat. Cover and put in refrigerator for 2-4 hours. Be sure not to marinade any longer than this or tequila and lime juice may start to break down chicken.
When ready to bake, preheat oven to 425 degrees, line a baking sheet with foil, and place a wire rack on it. Spray or brush rack lightly with cooking spray.
Place wings on prepared rack and pat lightly with a paper towel. Bake for 40-45 minutes, flipping them once halfway through bake time, until they're cooked through and golden.
When wings are almost ready to come out of the oven, make glaze. Combine tequila, lime juice, honey, and butter in a small saucepan over medium heat and simmer for 3-5 minutes until the sauce is slightly thickened. Add red pepper flakes.
Place cooked wings in a large bowl, pour glaze over the top, and toss well to combine.
Optional: After tossing wings in glaze, place back on the baking rack and put them under the broiler for about 30 seconds per side to crisp them up and caramelize them. Be sure to watch them carefully so they don't burn.
Serve wings with chopped cilantro, mint, chives, or the herbs of your choice.